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>How can I help someone with XYZ?

First, anonymous, ensure that the person in question wants to be helped.
Often times, people are not necessarily in a position to be helped by you.
Because their difficulties require the attention of specialists, and it is beyond your capability.
Or, they may simply not be ready or willing to help themselves.

If it is the latter, then as difficult as it may be, you must cease all assistive attempts.
For if there is any hope for solutions to be found, certain preconditions must be met.

Immediately, what is needed to be changed must first be identified and made concrete.
You cannot hit a target blindly shooting in the dark; it takes focused effort.
This takes a fair amount of introspection, combined with honesty and patience towards oneself.
If the goal is sufficiently grand, it would be wise to break it up into constitutive sub-goals.

Secondly, the person in question must first be receptive to the idea of change.
Towards both these ends, it would benefit the person to identify who they'd like to become.
And, conversely, identify who they'd hate to become.
Framing goals in these two perspectives gives them something to work towards, and run away from.

If, and only if these two conditions are met, may you intervene with your support.
Because otherwise? I'm afraid it would be a waste of your time, and eventually harbor resentment.
Remember, anonymous, cast not pearls before swine.
Your time and well-being are both valuable. Do not carelessly waste the former at detriment to the latter.

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